It feels like there's always somebody, or at least something, else in the room. There's something lurking around the edges of a conversation. I'm not even talking about multiple personalities (more about that later). I mean when your partner suddenly reacts to a word or a touch. They might withdraw or become aggressive. It makes no sense at all, but there they are, cutoff and distant, and maybe even dangerous. Its crazy. You know how it is. You feel lost. They are crazy, aren't they?

No, they probably aren't crazy and, hopefully, you aren't there yet, either. But it is hard.

The truth is that all of us react in illogical ways, at least to someone on the outside. If you were playing cards and you somehow knew everyone's hand and what their next cards would be, you might play your hand in ways that wouldn't make sense. At least to someone who didn't know what you knew. The magic might be knowing all of the cards, but the unpredictable behavior comes from knowing what they mean, how the next hand fits into the rules. Your special vantage point makes you anticipate a completely different outcome than everyone else in the room (while maintaining your poker face). They might think you are working from an "alternate reality".

All of us have imprinting that makes us interpret events using different rules. When those rules don't make sense to you, well, it can become impossible.

Life Beyond Conferences are here to help

We want you to know that really crazy people are rare (and many of those can be helped), but programming that suddenly injects seemingly crazy behavior into your life is really universal.

Because your partner's "alternate reality" lurks closer to the surface, you are blessed with a wonderful opportunity to experience them in so many rich and joyful ways. Very few couples have the opportunity to develop the connection available to you. It's awesome. It will change their life, your relationship, and you. It has fantastic results in the bedroom, too!