Melody and I presented out Couple's Pleasure Reboot seminar last weekend. I'm still amazed at the impact it has. We believe that most of the problems couples have are trauma related. For example, (and I know, many of you reading this blog will scoff at calling this trauma) males in most societies are deprived of touch starting at about 5 when there mothers start pushing them in to some perverted ideal of what a man should be. In fact, for the rest of their lives, the only touch they are supposed to have is for sex. I don't know which is more traumatic, not being touched or being taught that touch is only for sex. Maybe that is sounding more familiar to some of you with ritual sexual abuse in your history? Touch is only one of the tools we use to uncover the traumatic scars in your romantic partner (and you, too!). Uncovering the wounds is really not very helpful though. In fact, without the rest, its probably destructive. Melody's tools are a powerful tool for rediscovering the person you fell in love with, the one that now tries to protect all the wounds a relationship bumps and bruises. The sad thing is we pick our partners because we believe they will heal and protect those wounds. Some of the simple exercises participants do in the seminar gently expose their partner's pain and the techniques they practice show them how to start changing everything. I feel so good about what we do! To learn more, visit www.http://www.pleasurereboot.com