Theophostic Prayer Ministry
Theophostic Prayer is a Christian approach to helping
people find complete resolution of the emotional pain associated with trauma
and abuse. It was founded by Dr. Ed M.
Smith in the mid nineties in the context of helping sexual abuse victims. It is presently being used by mental health
professionals, pastors and lay ministers in over 140 countries worldwide with very
positive reports. There is continuing
research being done to help to establish empirical evidence of its
effectiveness. A survey was recently
completed taken with over 2800 people as part of a doctoral research. The purpose of the survey
was to determine the effectiveness of this approach from the recipients
perspective. The outcome was a very favorable
response with over 90% reporting that Theophostic Prayer was very helpful.
Some General Thoughts About Theophostic Prayer Ministry
(TPM)
(Taken from www.theophostic.com)
TPM assumes that when a person has a negative emotional response in the
present, it can almost always
be traced back to a belief harbored in an earlier event. In this
earlier event
a belief was established that is generating a negative emotion in the
present. A person's present feelings are generally indicative of what
he believes. If a
person will focus on the emotion he is feeling during a present tense
situation
and allow his mind to connect him with its source, he will usually find
himself
remembering an earlier event that carries the same emotion. This is due
to the
belief that was harbored in the earlier event is transposing its
emotion into
the present where the same belief is being applied. A common accusation
heard
during a marital conflict is "You are just like my father, mother,
brother, school teacher, etc..." What is happening here is the lies and
their corresponding emotions that were embraced in earlier times are
surfacing
in the current relationship.
When life happens around us we may become emotionally stirred by what occurs.
These lies make up the experiential knowledge we harbor that we learned in the
life moment that we have carried forward as a perpetual interpretive grid for
understanding and interpreting each new life experience. For example if little
Johnny is told repeatedly by his Father, "You are worthless" Johnny
may embrace this belief as truth and carry this experiential knowledge forward
even in spite of the fact the he later memorizes the verses that says he is
loved of God and has great worth in His sight. Johnny may also react
defensively every time anyone questions his behavior or criticizes his efforts.
The lie "I am worthless" will likely raise its ugly head over and
over each time he is reminded of it. Piling more truth on top of this lie may
not have much impact. A buried/hidden lie or sin will tend to come back around in
due season. Both must be owned and identified and brought to the Lord.
Simultaneously as we are embracing lie-based interpretations through early
experience, we are also gathering up logical truth what we are taught, read,
memorize and learn from example. This logical truth became the "law"
that we will seek to obey and conform our behavior to. However, each time the
experiential knowledge is "triggered" the pain of the past comes
forward into our present situation and stands in conflict with what we logically
know to do. Herein a battle is inevitable.
For example, a man might come home from work and ask his wife in innocent
curiosity, what she had done all day and be met with defensive hostility. In
this moment the wife is feeling and acting upon what she believes in that
moment. Theophostic Prayer Ministry seeks to identify any lie-based thinking
that is causing emotional pain in a person's present life and encourage the
person to bring this thinking to Christ for His truth perspective.
Struggles Come from Conflicting Beliefs.
Theophostic Prayer Ministry understands
our behavior to result from choices we make based both upon what we logically
believe to be true and what we experientially believe to be true. If these
beliefs are in agreement, we experience peace and calm as we go about everyday
life, we find it easy to be led by the Spirit, and we experience the fruit of
the Spirit called self-control. If, however, these beliefs are in conflict, we
will experience unrest and struggle. The Bible calls this being double-minded
(James 1:8) or holding opposing beliefs at the same time. Struggling to act
according to what we logically believe (obedience) and against what we
experientially believe (lies) is not functioning in Spirit-led self-control but
"trying to climb up some other way." Theophostic Prayer Ministry's
solution is to own what we experientially believe and discover, identify and
expose (confession) this thinking to the Lord to be rescued from this struggle
through receiving His truth.
Failure to successfully maintain strict obedience to logical truth we hold
happens because a person is often strongly motivated by the way he feels in any
given moment. What we feel is a strong motivation in the choices we make moment
to moment. When the experiential knowledge (which is the primary source of our
emotional state) is contrary to our logical belief we will experience an inner
conflict. For example, if I feel very anxious or worried I tend to act this
out. TPM believes that strong emotion primarily comes from experiential
knowledge (mental information derived from what we have actually experienced)
and not from logical truth (data believed as truth but never realized through
experience). This experiential knowledge can be lie-based, and when it is, it produces
painful emotions such as fear, worry, anxiety, and depression to name a few.
Theophostic Prayer Ministry's focus is the renewal of the mind at the
experiential level of consciousness. Theophostic Prayer Ministry seeks to
expose and dispel the lies producing this pain so people will no longer be
double-minded and can walk in the truth more easily.
Emotional Pain is Often Rooted in Lies Harbored in Experience.
Theophostic Prayer Ministry recognizes that the emotional pain one experiences
in the present is often coming from a lie contained in an earlier experiential
source. If the emotional pain is being generated by a lie rooted in earlier
faulty thinking, true release of the emotional pain in the present will not
likely occur unless the person is able to identify this falsehood and receive
God's perspective.
Can we really put our past behind us?
It is very important that we never allow our past to dictate what we do or do
not do in the present tense. Our past is no excuse for our current behavior
or choices. We are not victims of our past. However, to say we can
just put it all behind us and think that it will just go away, not impact or
influence us, and somehow leave us alone is wishful thinking.
The truth is, our past is behind us. It is called memory. The question is what
we will do with the memory that we have no option but carry. Those who suggest
just putting it behind generally choose to suppress it, deny it, block it out
and refuse to allow it to creep into conscious awareness. The problem is, no
matter how deep we bury it and even should we forget where it is hidden, it
knows where we live and revisits us in our dysfunctions, marital rifts, and
through other relational sabotage. All of our present behavior is linked to our
thinking. All thought is connected to what we know and have learned. Everything
we know we received in experience. All experience is in the past and therefore
a memory. This makes cleaning up our memories of lie-based thought a crucial
part of what we do if we are to be "transformed (changed) by the renewing
of our minds" (Rom. 12:2) Some people pride themselves in their ability to
"rise above" their past basing their success in their ability to
achieve and perform in spite of their past. This is commendable but it really
does little to deal with the lie-based thinking that is held at the core level
in their thinking. Our core beliefs remain intact no matter how well we
perform. Sometimes our performance is actually the outcome of us running from
and avoiding the pain that is held in our past. Not everything we call
spiritual is always that.
Putting the past behind us is both
practically and neurologically impossible.
Some say we should put the past behind us by not thinking about it any longer
and by pressing forward to what lies ahead. It would be great if this was
actually possible, but practically and neurologically it cannot be done. If
what people mean is just choose to not be influenced by your past and block out
any troubling painful memory, then this is simply suppression and denial and
not anything spiritual. Every thought in our mind comes from our history. God
designed our minds to draw from the historical information stored in our minds.
It is designed to work well unless the information is flawed with lies. This is
why the mind needs to be renewed. To just not think about it is to live in
suppression and denial and to keep the lies we harbor hidden. There is a more
profitable solution and that is to own our past, identify the lies that are at
the root of the pain and find truth from the Word of God and by listening to
the communication of the God’s Spirit.
The past is a wealth of knowledge that has great benefit when it is lie-free.
The truth is, all that I have is my past and a tiny moment in time we call the
present. Everything that I have in my mind is memory, and every emotion that I
feel is connected to some aspect of my thinking, which is based on memory
(unless the emotion is due to a bio-chemical problem). To "put my past
behind me" in the sense of trying not to think about the past is to fight
against how God has created my mind to operate. Putting my past behind me is a
program of controlled behavior that is self-reliant and dependent upon my
efforts in maintaining it. Anytime self-effort is the power source, defeat is
often just around the corner.
Self-effort was never God's solution for overcoming sin that is motivated by
lie-based thinking nor is His solution to lie-based thought denial of its
existence.
Genuine renewal does not come from building strong logical defenses against the
lies, or from embarking on a program of suppressing behavior motivated by
lie-based emotions. Just choosing not to think about our past does not provide
any long-term solution to our lie-based pain. This emotional pain is coming
from the lies in our history, not the history itself. Rather than not think
about the memory event, we can choose to identify what it is in the event (the
lie) that is causing the problem and find His truth. It is this lie harbored in
the memory that is in need of renewal. True release comes from being set free
from the lies that motivate sinful behavior. This is why Theophostic Prayer
Ministry can be helpful for emotionally wounded people—the process opens the
way for the Holy Spirit to replace their lies and pain with truth and peace.
Not All Negative Emotion is Lie-based; Some is Truth-Based
Theophostic Prayer Ministry recognizes that there are some negative emotions
that are not lie-based but actually truth-based. Such feelings as
disappointment, grief, sadness, regret and anger are often rooted in truth. If
you were to ask a survivor of sexual abuse why they may be angry, they might
respond with, "Because what he did was wrong!" This would be the
truth. However, if what I feel is fear, shame, abandonment, etc., this is
lie-based. Theophostic Prayer Ministry sees it as important for a person to
find freedom from both lie-based and truth-based emotional pain since we are
commanded by the Word of God to "cast all of our burdens on Him" (1
Peter 5:7). However, truth-based emotions are biblically righteous, whereas
emotions such as anxiety, worry, fear, and feelings of abandonment are not,
since we are told to "Be anxious for nothing" (Phil. 4:6), "fear
not" (Matt. 10:31), and to know that He is with us always so we cannot be
abandoned (Matt. 28:20), etc. The TPM facilitator is trained to know the
difference between lie-based and truth-based emotion and how to deal with each
accordingly.
Basic Principles of Theophostic Prayer Ministry
What follows is a concise, but truncated summary of the basic principles of
Theophostic Prayer Ministry. These principles are NOT the "how to"
for applying the process, but rather the foundational stones that support what
is done in a ministry session.
NOTE: This section is a truncated and summarized portion taken from the 2007
edition of the Theophostic Prayer Ministry Basic training Manual. It only
contains a small part of the total context from which it was lifted. Please
know that you are not getting a full explanation of each of these principles
and may come to an inaccurate conclusion without reading the fuller section.
You are invited to purchase the Basic training seminar risk free (13 DVD
sessions and the Basic Training Manual) . If you are dissatisfied for any
reason return it in resalable condition within 30 days for a full refund.
Principle One: Our Present Situation Is Rarely the True Cause of Our
Ongoing Emotional Pain
It is easy and even logical for us to believe that our ongoing emotional pain
is connected to what is happening in our present situation. However, if we
blame our present situation for emotional pain coming from an earlier event, we
will be trapped in an irresolvable cycle of distress and defeat. Believing that
other people or circumstances are the cause of our emotional upheaval empowers
them to control us emotionally until they change. For if it is true that other
people or circumstance is the reason I feel bad then I cannot feel different
until the person or situation changes.
When we find freedom from the lie-based thinking held in our memories, we will
no longer be stirred up by it and can walk in peace. In relationship conflict
it is common for each person to assume that the other is causing the pain they
feel. Of course, real pain can be caused by others in the present, and this is
not an excuse for their poor behavior. Nevertheless, even when another person
has acted inappropriately, our emotional response is often out of proportion to
the offense because the event triggers lie-based pain. From the outside, much
of what we feel from time to time seems not to fit with the current situation.
I can recall feeling intense anger one day over another driver rushing in ahead
of me and "stealing" my parking place at the shopping center. I might
have been justified in being a little annoyed, but I wanted to smash his
headlights. What should have been mild irritation was a boiling inner rage.
Trying to resolve present conflicts without resolving our historical
woundedness will give us only temporary relief; at some point the lies will be
triggered again and the pain will resurface. However, if our thinking is
renewed with truth, we can redeem the present.
However, if I feel bad because I have sinned; good, I should. Bad feelings
should follow
those who are convicted by the Holy Spirit for doing wrongly. If I sin and do
not feel bad then there is something wrong.
Principle Two: There Is a "Dual Mental Process" Going On in
Each of Us.
When we react negatively to a new experience, it
is nearly always because of a prior experience. Our minds are designed to interpret
every event with the beliefs we have acquired earlier. Our brains automatically
transfer the feelings stored in the memory of an original experience to this
present moment. This neurological process of association continually provides
input as to how to respond to a current situation based on our response to
similar events in the past. This automatic superimposing of past emotional
responses onto later situations has great bearing on our behavior, because we
tend to act out the way we feel. God has designed our minds to connect current
and past events, almost outside of our awareness. A dual mental process is
constantly at work in each of us as we associate what is happening currently
with what has already occurred, while staying focused on the present moment.
Our minds use information from related or similar experiences from our past to
make decisions or judgment calls. Without historical data to draw from, we
would not know how to respond to our current life situations. For example, if I
did not have a "mean dog" experience in my mind and one day a pit
bulldog lunged at me, I might pet his head, losing my hand in the process.
However, if I remember my poodle snapping at my finger when I was a little boy,
a "beware until you know if it's friendly" thought will immediately
stir up within me and give me a sense of caution. I use the phrase dual mental
process, as opposed to conscious and subconscious, because this process is not
actually hidden from our conscious awareness. Although it is not particularly
noticed in every day life, we can choose to consciously observe it. I can sit
in front of my computer and focus completely on what I am doing, oblivious to
the ruckus all around me. However, when I choose to "tune in," I
realize that I have at some level been aware of all that is happening, but
simply not "noticing" it. The same thing happens for those who drive
each day. Have you ever passed through several traffic lights and suddenly
realize that you have no conscious memory of them because you were daydreaming?
Although you were mentally somewhere else, you were also driving your car. When
something occurs in daily life, our minds search through our accumulated
memories for similarly perceived experiences and then use them to provide
interpretations and emotions so we can respond accordingly. We do not
"notice" where the reactive information has come from; we just feel
the emotion and come to conclusions based upon our experiential beliefs. This
divinely designed mechanism serves us well when our experiences are
truth-based. Then we are able to respond with the wisdom that we have learned
and with the peace of Christ. We can consciously initiate this process in a
ministry session to help people make the connection between their present pain
and their lie-based thinking. Once they are willing to let go of their current
circumstances and seek the original memory source of their lie-based pain, have
them close their eyes in a prayerful state and just feel whatever emotion has
been identified. Initially, you want them to focus on the feeling without being
concerned with its source. Ministry recipients know where this historical event
linked to their emotional pain is located, even if they initially cannot
consciously connect with it. However, as we encourage them to
"notice" this natural association process, their mind is able to
surface the memory linked to their feelings. This is nothing mystical, strange,
or New Age; it's a normal, natural process.
Principle Three: People Can Hold Two or More Opposing Beliefs at the
Same Time.
Knowing the Scripture is no guarantee of victory
in my day-to-day walk. This is because what we believe to be true cognitively
and logically may not necessarily match what we believe to be true
experientially. Most of the time we don't live our lives based on our logical
beliefs, but rather on what we have learned experientially and emotionally. For
example, if I truly believe God is my shield and protector, I should never live
in fear; if I believe God will supply all my needs, I should never be anxious
about finances; and, if I believe God is in control of my life, I would never
worry about what might happen to me next. However, if I live in fear, worry and
have anxiety, then I believe something contrary to God's Word. What I feel in
any given moment indicates what I truly believe at the experiential level. My
emotions expose my true core-belief system because I feel what I believe.
Furthermore, I may find it very difficult to change my core beliefs simply by
choosing to think otherwise, or by adding more logical truth to the mix. The
fact is that renewal and transformation is a work of the Holy Spirit.
Principle Four: Feelings Are Important Indicators of Our True Belief.
Some people say that we should just accept the truth by faith and choose to
obey it no matter what we feel. They rightly point out that truth is truth
regardless of our feelings. However, our feelings give us valuable information.
It is normal for us to respond emotionally to life. Just because we say we feel
nothing does not mean that we do not have feelings; numbness is merely the
refusal to own our feelings. I was emotionally numb for most of my life, but my
unacknowledged, deep-rooted feelings still affected everything I did. My
decisions, my relationships and my ministry were all shaped by the need to
avoid and suppress emotional pain. God gave us feelings for very important and
practical reasons. People who discount them are being as nonsensical as saying
"deny the nerve endings in your fingers and do not trust them." How
silly is that? Of course we take note of the messages our nerve endings send
our fingers so that we avoid holding a hot plate too long and being burned.
Pain was created by God as a primary warning system to indicate when something
is wrong. As with physical pain, when our lie-based pain is triggered, we must
learn to respond appropriately rather than looking for a way to block it out or
blame others. If we ignore it, we will at some point suffer consequences.
Emotions are indicators of what we experientially believe. They do not
necessarily indicate the truth, but they reveal our beliefs, true or false.
Unless we allow our emotions to expose what we believe and cease trying to
suppress and deny them, we are doomed never to change. When truth is
experiential, it tends to be coupled with emotion. Emotion flows from belief
(whether truth or lies); we feel whatever we believe. God has designed us to
feel whatever we hold as truth. If I genuinely believe that I am loved by God,
then I should feel loved by God. If I believe that He is the supplier of my
needs, then I should feel secure. If I believe that He is coming soon to usher
me into eternity, I should feel hopeful. If I feel emotion that is contrary to
the truth, then something is wrong. The answer is not to try harder to believe,
but rather to discover what runs contrary to His truth and find release from
those lies that are producing negative emotion. I have found that this contrary
emotion will always be rooted in experiential lie-based thinking. Knowledge
without experience is hard to stand on. However, when I know what I know
because I have experience to back it up, the ground is much more firm. The
Bible says, "Count it all joy when you encounter various trials, knowing
that the testing of your faith produces endurance, therefore let endurance have
its full and final work that you may be complete, lacking in nothing"
(James 1:2-4 paraphrase).
Principle Five: IF I Believe a Lie the Consequences Will Be Much the
Same as if It Were True
Our experiential beliefs dictate our emotional response and status in any given
moment, and thus affect our behavior. If we believe something, we will feel
corresponding emotion and will tend to make choices based on this condition.
These choices can create a perpetual cycle of bondage, giving the enemy a
foothold in our lives. If we believe a lie to be true, it will play itself out
in our lives as though it were true. This gives lies enormous power to dictate
much of our present reality. Our emotional state is a pointer to our true
belief system. Even if what we believe is false, it will have much the same
outcome as if it were true. If I believe that God abandoned me when I was being
abused, hurt or overlooked as a child, then when I am in need later as an adult,
I might find that though I have memorized Scripture and choose to believe the
truth that God is watching out for me, I still "feel" all alone and
unprotected. Some might say that this was simply unbelief. Unbelief is not the
absence of belief, but rather holding a belief that is contrary to God's truth.
Recognizing these contrary beliefs is an important step towards freedom.
Principle Six: To Be Free of the Lies We Believe, We Must Own Them
Rather Than Deny Them
Our natural inclination is to deny that we believe lies and to bury the
pain they are producing. If we do this, however, we will maintain a cycle of
perpetual defeat in our lives. As long as lies remain embedded in our minds,
they will continue to surface as pain every time we are in situations similar
to when they were originally implanted. Freedom requires honestly acknowledging
our emotional pain and taking responsibility for its corresponding belief. We
must choose to lay down our feeble defenses and attempts to project the pain
onto others or onto life circumstances before God will release us from what has
held us bound. God does not reward pretension. He rewards honesty and humility
by making His strength perfect in our weakness. When our negative emotions
expose our lie-infested wounds, it provides opportunities for mind renewal. God
either allows or orchestrates our surroundings to bring us under pressure,
which will expose our true core belief system. It requires little effort to
perform at a high level of "spirituality" when things are going well
with us. However, when trouble comes, whatever is on the inside comes out. The
falsehoods that we believe will express themselves through our emotional state
and consequent behavior. If we choose to follow the "smoke trail" of
our stirred-up emotions back to their original memory source, we can usually
discover the lie-based belief causing the emotional pain. It is here that we
can find freedom from the emotional pain produced by these lies, as we receive
truth from the Holy Spirit.
Principle Seven: Sinful Behavior Is Often a Vain Attempt to Manage
Our Emotional Pain
I believe that many of the sinful choices we make are motivated by vain
attempts to manage our emotional pain. It is easier to act out sinfully than to
address the reasons we are emotionally stirred up. We feel depressed, angry,
stressed, fearful, alone, etc., so we eat when we are not hungry, please
ourselves with sex or entertainment, and find other distractions rather than
attend to the bad feelings. When our lie-based thinking is triggered, our
present situation is flooded with emotions from the past. The stronger the
emotion, the more it tends to influence our present behavior. However, as our
thinking changes, our life does, too. When our false thinking is divinely
replaced with experiential truth, our painful emotions transform into perfect
peace, and therefore the temptation to sin becomes much less powerful. When we
have negative feelings, we can still try to act appropriately. The problem is
that we're not able to do that most of the time (unless, of course, our minds
have been genuinely renewed). So, when we feel pain, we usually "act on
it" by giving the same back to others, pulling away or ignoring and
internalizing the pain – which leads to problems such as self-hate, depression,
anxiety, physical illness, and so on. When we act out our triggered emotions in
any of these ways, we sin and "fall short of the glory of God"
(Romans 3:23). A driving force behind most addictions, if not all, is emotional
pain. Most adulterous relationships are also rooted in painful emotions that we
are hoping someone outside our marriage can eliminate. So, as we strive against
sin, we must also address the pain factor that often motivates our sinful
responses or we may remain in an endless loop of battle with controlled
behavior and defeat. A person suffering from bulimia usually manifests a
predictable thought pattern before acting out on her compulsion. Something
triggers her lie-based thinking with feelings of unrest, anxiety, depression, abandonment,
fear, or some other inner turmoil. Regardless of whether she is consciously
aware of these feelings, they prompt her to shift into the pain-managing
routine she has developed, eating until the emotions subside. But after she has
completely gorged herself, her feelings change to self-loathing and shame for
the binge. These prompt her to act out another pain-managing routine, and she
purges herself of the food.
Principle Eight: Performance-Based Spirituality Is Not True
Spirituality
Prior to this ministry, I only knew how to deny pain and "claim
victory" by faith. I experienced temporary victory, as long as I expended
great effort. The truth is that my bad feelings were exposing the flaws in my
belief structure. Only as I am willing to acknowledge what I feel and expose my
false thinking, am I able to know a more consistent victory. For most of my
Christian life I have been instructed by others to just believe God, stand on
the truth and act contrary to my feelings. Today, this is exactly what I try to
do except for the feeling part. I no longer see denial of what I feel as some
measure of victory or spirituality. Even lost people can deny feelings and many
do as good if not better than most believers. Denial and suppression of emotion
is not spiritual, it is merely controlled behavior. Years ago when I would
counsel people about their emotional crisis I made statements such as,
"Don't trust your emotions," "Deny what you feel and act on the
truth," and "Act your way into a new way of feeling." The
problem with this line of thinking is that it denies why we feel what we feel
and thus keeps out lie-based thinking in place. Those who are able to
discipline themselves into acting against their feelings (usually not the most
deeply wounded) are often regarded as "spiritual." But
performance-based spirituality is not true spirituality. True spirituality is
experiencing God's power in us and being able to act appropriately in any
present moment, because our minds are at rest as a consequence of what Jesus has
done. We can walk in perfect peace in chaotic circumstances when our old,
tormenting lies have been replaced with God's truth and the indwelling Christ
is freely operating within us. I believe that we can know His joy and peace in
every circumstance when we know His truth experientially. The Apostle Paul told
us to rejoice in the Lord, always and at all times (Philippians 4:4) and
"May the Lord of peace Himself grant you peace in every circumstance"
(2 Thessalonians 3:16). It is often suggested that these passages teach
obedient choice in the face of contrary emotion. We should simply choose to be
joyful even when we do not feel joy, and calm when we do not feel calm. Some
people teach that if you keep doing this in the face of emotional opposition,
at some point the contrary emotion will lay down in defeat and transform into
something more pleasant. Obedience entails pushing through the bad feelings you
really feel in the moment and making yourself feel something else. However,
choosing to rejoice is not the same as feeling joyful. The joy of the Lord is
not a choice I make, but rather what I have when I walk experientially in His
truth. We cannot make ourselves feel joyful. Either we have joy or we don't. If
we don't then there is a problem. I want to suggest that the problem often is
found in what we believe. The problem is that joy and peace are both fruits of
the Holy Spirit, and we cannot produce either on our own. I would say that they
are both outcomes of our experiential belief, naturally flowing by the power of
the indwelling Holy Spirit. If they are not flowing, it is probable that lies
are stifling them.
Principle Nine: When We Receive Truth from God in Memories Where We
Harbored Lie-Based Thoughts, We Can Walk in Effortless Victory in These Areas
I sometimes use the phrases "maintenance-free victory" and
"effortless victory." This principle is sometimes misunderstood. I am
not saying that if we have a session or two of TPM we will suddenly be free of
all difficulties. Our Christian life is filled with struggles and we will only
reach sinless perfection in eternity. But when we know His truth experientially
where lies were harbored, the pain that those particular lies produced can be
completely eradicated. Lies are dispelled one-by-one, memory-by-memory. Every
believer can know a victory that is fully empowered by the indwelling presence
of Christ, free of striving and accomplished through resting in Him in specific
areas where true renewal has occurred. When the Spirit of Christ brings truth into
my thinking, He replaces the lie with truth, and I find genuine release and
peace where I once only knew pain. When the pain produced by these lies is
resolved, any behavior that this pain motivated can also cease. The areas of
our minds that are renewed with truth will no longer be stirred up with
lie-based pain. Since our emotional pain is a primary motivator for our
inappropriate behavior, we should be able to walk in a more consistent victory
in these specific places. Experiencing the truth frees us to walk in
"newness of life" (Romans 6:4) so that we might experientially agree
with the Apostle Paul who declared, "Do not let sin reign in your mortal
body so that you obey its lusts, and do not go on presenting the members of
your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness [the very thing we tend to
do when emotionally stirred up and in pain]; but present yourselves to God as
those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to
God [which is effortless when we are walking in the truth and peace of the Holy
Spirit]" (Romans 6:12-13, bracketed words mine).
Principle Ten: Only an Encounter with the Presence of Jesus through
the Holy Spirit Can Free Us from the Lies We Believe
God desires that we come to Him dependent and devoid of any hope of
self-deliverance. The Apostle Paul declared, "I have been crucified with
Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life
which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me
and gave Himself up for me" (Galatians 2:20). Much of what we call
spirituality or Christian maturity is behavior that any lost person could
probably achieve if he just set his mind to it. Of course, we should desire to
live out what is pleasing to God. Yet the victory God most desires is
accomplished by Him in us as we willingly submit to him and rely on Him to
bring it about. When we try to live in victory through self-effort and hard
work, we will eventually fail. Christ in us, not self-effort, is our power to overcome.
As we experience the emotional pain in memories, we realize that we are
helpless, trapped in our emotional bondage, and cannot make the pain go away.
This is how people in the New Testament were when Jesus healed them physically:
needy and helpless. It is how Paul found himself when Jesus spoke truth into
his painful circumstance: "My grace is sufficient for you, for power is
perfected in weakness." Paul then stated, "Most gladly, therefore, I
will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in
me" (2 Corinthians 12:9). Theophostic Prayer Ministry simply encourages
people to listen as the Lord reveals His truth to their hearts and minds. Of
course, bible study, teaching and preaching are important, but apart from the
intervention of the Holy Spirit we cannot fully know truth. Jesus said that
when "the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all the
truth" (John 16:13). There is a vast difference between learning about God
cognitively and encountering him relationally. Both are important, but one
without the other will fall short. Head knowledge has little or no impact on a
person unless the Holy Spirit delivers it to the heart. In 2 Timothy 2:24-26,
the Apostle Paul advised: "The Lord's bond-servant must … be kind to all,
able to teach, patient when wronged, with gentleness correcting those who are
in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the
knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the
snare of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will."
Principle Eleven: We Are in Emotional Bondage Due to Two Basic
Factors – Belief and Choice
Belief and choice are foundational to everything we do. People tend to make
choices based on what they really believe, not on what they wish they believed
or say they believe. The belief system that has us stuck is primarily rooted in
our experiences. What we learn from experience is much more influential in our
decision making than what we have learned passively through study or
instruction. It is impossible to fully and wholeheartedly embrace a belief that
is contrary to our experience. We will struggle to the degree that our
experiential knowledge conflicts with our logical truth. Even if we choose to
act contrary to this belief, there will be an element of doubt. Behaving the
truth by sheer will may slowly erode negative experiential beliefs we hold and
result in a measure of victory. The concept of "acting your way into a new
way of thinking" may have some merit, because the new experience based on
truth will offset the old experience to some degree and gradually renew our
minds in this area. However, it is even more blessed to intentionally revisit a
painful memory where we have embraced falsehood, receive a personalized word
from the Lord, and have the old belief entirely removed in a single moment. God
has chosen to limit Himself when it comes to the human will. What often stands
between us and the good things God offers us is what we believe and the choices
we make based on that belief. Here we have a conflict. We may want to be free
of the emotional pain in our lives and say that we will take responsibility for
it and go wherever we need to in order to find freedom. However, the difference
between saying something and doing it has everything to do with our will. What
we will is what we do. Often people declare with all their heart, "God, I
want to be free! I am willing to feel the pain and know the truth of what happened
to me" and yet they cannot get there. They will say with complete
sincerity that they want to move forward but they feel blocked. They honestly
do not know what to do to change the situation, consciously speaking. Although
they want to be free and are choosing to go as far as they have come, they are
also making a choice not to go any further. They want to be free but are
unwilling to go through the pain. It has been my experience that when people
get "stuck" in the ministry process and later move forward to
freedom, it is because they eventually made the choice to do so. No matter what
was involved in their blockage (demons, dissociation, anger, amnesia,
repression, etc.) it is always their choice that moves them forward. I know
what it feels like to want to break through in my own personal times of
ministry, but to hit a wall. I have desired to be free, to feel, and to know,
without being able to go forward. Nevertheless, in every case when I chose to,
I was able to find my way clear. Nothing can keep people from moving toward
freedom other than their own choosing. Choice is always resting on belief; we
choose based upon what we believe. There is an entire chapter dedicated to this
principle in the 2007 Basic Seminar Manual.
Principle Twelve: The Written Word of God is the Standard for
Validating What Occurs in Ministry
Theophostic Prayer Ministry is a system for doing ministry based upon specific
biblical principles, and we use the written Word of God to validate what people
hear from the Lord. It is my personal belief that the Bible is the inspired
Word of God and is "profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction,
and for training in righteousness" (2 Timothy 3:16). It is timeless and
relevant for all circumstances and the fullness of God's divine inspired
revelation to man. What happens in a Theophostic Prayer Ministry session has
the potential of going astray just as in any other counseling or ministry
setting. Therefore, the ministry facilitator should be well-equipped in
"rightly handling the Word of truth" and identifying what is
consistent with the Bible and that which is not. The facilitator should draw
attention to any false messages.
Principle Thirteen: Lie-based pain can only be removed as lies are
replaced with truth, whereas the only remedy for sin-based pain is the cross of
Jesus Christ.
All people are born into sin as a corporate consequence of Adam's sin:
"Sin came into the world through one man, and death came through sin, and
so death spread to all because all have sinned" (Romans 5:12 NRSV). All
people make conscious, willful choices to sin at some point in their lives,
which separate them from God: "All have sinned and fall short of the glory
of God" (Romans 3:23 NRSV). Apart from the cross of Christ there is no
remedy for sin: "Without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness of
sin" (Hebrews 9:22 NRSV). People do not overcome sin by their hard work,
but by appropriating the completed work of Christ on the cross: "Are you
so foolish? Having started with the Spirit, are you to be perfected by the
flesh?" (Galatians 3:3 NRSV). Any effort to escape sin apart from relying
on Christ is self-righteousness. Sin is dealt with through several basic steps.
God's Word exposes our wrongdoing through the conviction of the Holy Spirit, and
our right response is to confess, or agree with God (1 John 1:9) that what we
have done is indeed sinful and unbecoming of a saint (Ephesians 5:3). God then
may grant us repentance (change of thinking) (2 Timothy 2:25) so we can turn
toward God, submit to Him, and experience His indwelling power to live rightly.
Principle Fourteen: Mind Renewal Is a Lifelong Process
I have never met anyone who seems to be walking in perfect knowledge and
understanding of God's truth. We all have a distance to go in terms of mind
renewal, and total release of all lie-based thinking is not even possible
within our lifetime. All of us have many lies harbored in our minds and pick up
additional lies along the way. If we choose not to cooperate with what God is
doing through exposing our false beliefs and seeking His truth, we will remain
in bondage. The truth is, we will complete this mind-renewal journey at one of
two places; either when we die or when the Lord returns. Keep in mind that
Theophostic Prayer Ministry is not based on a formula but on principles and
techniques that are to be applied in the Lord's timing as He guides each
ministry session. Your skill in administering the Theophostic Prayer Ministry
process will depend upon your understanding of these principles, your ability
to apply the techniques you will learn, and upon the amount of experience you
gain in applying them.
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